BDSM

BDSM (SM for short) stands for "Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism" and is the largest sexual fetish area. It is all about submission, domination, pain and reward.

What it's all about

For the active part (top) to gain pleasure, dominating the passive counterpart (bottom) takes centre stage.
Most passives are concerned with relinquishing all responsibility. However, SM does not always have to involve sexual acts. Verbal humiliation or "just" the use of whips, canes and restraints can also provide sexual satisfaction.

What can happen

Trust is the top priority in BDSM. That's why you shouldn't tie yourself directly to a St Andrew's cross at an S&M sex party and let strangers whip you. If S&M toys are used, they should be thoroughly disinfected for each new partner to avoid possible infections.

What matters

Mutual trust is the most important thing in BDSM.
Drugs should be taboo for the active part: If you are the active part, you should be clear and responsible at all times.
Agree a code word with your partner, the mention of which immediately ends your game.
If you share S&M toys with several partners, you should ensure that the toys are thoroughly disinfected (e.g. with an alcohol-based disinfectant; soak for at least 30 seconds).
The same rules apply Safer sex rules as with any other sexual game.