The prejudice persists that old people don't have sex. Not at all! Perhaps priorities are shifting and cuddling is becoming more important than a hot fuck, but sex still plays a role in the 60-plus generation, as these four gay men report by way of example.
Sex with your partner. Kurt (62) from Zeitz says:
I've been living with my partner for eight years. We got married four years ago. Many couples just sleep in the same bed after such a long time, but nothing happens. With us, however, it does. We regularly have sex with each other, but also with other men - sometimes together, sometimes each for himself. That spices up our sex life. It doesn't matter whether it's men we meet online, in the park, at a sex cinema or on the flap.
But when we invite someone over, we expect more than just lying down and holding out our hole. For us, sex includes kissing, tenderness, licking and rimming as well as a hot blowjob.
Sex as a single man. Julio (66) from Cologne tells us:
Why so many gay men have a problem with getting older is a mystery to me. Maybe it's because they're so cock-obsessed and think that at some point they won't be able to get any more guys. I still have sex and find it much more intense than when I was younger. One reason for this is that for me it's all about sympathy. Another is that I like men with experience. But sometimes I'm also looking for a thrill: I regularly fly to Gran Canaria for naturism. I feel free in the dunes of Maspalomas and enjoy the fact that others feel the same. Age doesn't play such a big role there.
I stopped going to bars a long time ago. They're all giraffes: first they stick their necks out and then you look at them and they bury their heads in the sand. Unfortunately, the scene has been ruined by the whole youth craze. Just take a look in the mirror, guys! And be honest with yourself! Everyone gets old sometimes. At least if you're lucky!
Sex for money. Jean-Claude (66) from Karlsruhe has experience:
When I was as young as the men I find beautiful and attractive, homosexuality was still considered sick and disgusting. I had to live with extreme restrictions. Maybe that's one reason why I long for younger men so much. I find it wonderful when a young man lies next to me and I can give him the love that I lacked back then. It also refreshes me to be surrounded by younger people and I am challenged sexually. I don't have sex with men my own age. My sex partners are no more than 40 years old.
It goes without saying that I give them something for their tenderness and the time they spend with me. However, I have never ordered a professional callboy. That would be far too business-like for me. I need the feeling of being liked.
Karl (60) from Dillenburg hardly ever has sex, and yet:
Everyone has certain ideas about a potential sex partner. I myself like the look of younger, sporty men. But it also has to be a good fit interpersonally. That makes it almost impossible for me to stay sexually active. Because for my target group, I'm an old bag and I live in a real backwater. Sex for sale is out of the question for me, because I don't like the quick, numb act. And lowering my expectations? I'd rather not have sex at all. I've done sport all my life and it shows. I've worked as a fitness trainer, go mountain biking and have crossed the Himalayas.
But not having sex doesn't mean that I'm frustrated. I mainly have younger friends. I've also retained a bit of eroticism: I'm a passionate wrestler and often meet up with men for duels.
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